Sexless in Seattle
Beyond frequency.
Beyond simplistic definitions of sex and intimacy.
We've spent a lot of time counting intercourse.
Perhaps it's time to ask better questions.
What are we actually hungry for?
What creates connection?
What happens when desire changes?
When grief enters the room?
When intimacy feels absent despite sharing a bed, a home, or a life together?
Sexless in Seattle explores erotic fulfillment, intimacy, desire, loneliness, grief, emotional labor, vulnerability, connection, and the complicated realities of long-term relationships.
And the stories we've inherited about what sex is, what intimacy means, and what it takes to feel alive with another person.
Many of us are hungry for intimacy.
But perhaps what we're really hungry for is connection.
In this essay, I explore vulnerability, intimacy, receptivity, reciprocity, and the fruit many of us may be seeking all along.
What We’re Hungry For
What if some of what we call frustration, resentment, or anger is actually grief?
This essay explores Erotic Grief—the losses, unrealized desires, and imagined futures we may carry within our intimate lives.
Erotic Grief
We’ve spent a lot of time counting intercourse.
Maybe it’s time to ask better questions.