About Heidi

I didn’t always know what belonged to me.

I didn’t always recognize how much of what I thought was me had been shaped by things like family, culture, relationships, and expectations.

Or how often I had learned to turn away from myself.

There was a man.

Gorgeous. Intense. Certain of himself.

Self-proclaimed control freak.

The sex?

Super hot.

At first, I thought his controlling behavior was sexy.

I was his.

No one else could touch me.

He demanded I write his property on my body.

And I did.

With a black Sharpie.

Several times.

Right over my left breast.

Not with surrender.
Not with seduction.

But with compliance.

I felt turned on.

And small.

Conflicted.

Part of me wanted to please him.

Another part of me felt disgusted.

Furious.

Not just with him.

With myself.

I realized how easily I’d been taught to confuse being chosen with being owned.

And how normal it felt.

That realization wasn't only about him.

It made me curious about what else I'd mistaken for myself.

What had I inherited?
What had I learned?
What had helped me survive?
What had I adapted to?

What was actually mine?

And what the hell else was sitting in my spiritual lost & found?

What I See Now

I see how easily we can mistake what shaped us for who we are.

And I don't think the answer is to strip away every influence until we uncover some perfectly untouched, “authentic” self underneath.

We're shaped by living.

By people.
By bodies.
By culture.
By love.
By loss.

By what happened to us and what didn't.

The question I'm more interested in is:

What do I want to keep?
What still belongs?
What doesn't?

What am I ready to exorcise?

What have I lost contact with that I want to reclaim?

That's the work I keep returning to in my own life.

And it's the work I explore with other people.

Hi. I’m Heidi.

We’re shaped by things we didn’t choose.
We get to choose what we carry forward.

And it’s not just my story.

What I Do

Think of my work as a kind of spiritual lost & found.

We explore what has shaped you and sort through what we find.

What’s yours?
What isn’t?
What still fits?
What the hell is that doing in here?
What are you ready to leave behind?
What have you been missing that you want back?

We untangle.
We sort.
You choose.

My work often wanders through relationships, intimacy, sexuality, self-expression, grief, and desire—and into questions about what we’ve learned to hide, reshape, carry, or leave behind.

Who This is For

This work tends to resonate with people who:

sense that something in their life no longer fits
are questioning what they've been taught about relationships, desire, identity, or themselves
are tired of shrinking, overgiving, performing, or abandoning themselves
are curious about what's actually theirs
want something more honest—even if they can't name it yet

What It’s Like to Work With Me

I create a well-held space where you can slow down, tune in, and listen to yourself.

My job isn't to have your answers. It's to help you hear your own.

I have a knack for recognizing patterns. I notice threads running beneath the surface—through stories, relationships, dreams, symbols, desires, and fears.

Together, we get curious about what they might mean.

I reflect what I see, not to tell you who you are, but to offer another lens through which you might recognize yourself.

Our work might include thoughtful conversation, guided journeys, ritual, tarot, embodiment, or symbolic exploration.

And while the work can go deep, it doesn't have to be solemn.

Laughter, delight, irreverence, and unexpected moments of levity belong here, too.

Your yes belongs here.
Your no belongs here, too.

I'm here to tend the lantern while you discover your own way.

A Little About Me

I came to this work from two directions.

One was academic.

I earned a PhD in Sociology, specializing in criminology, and spent years studying patterns, relationships, deviance, social control, and the ways people are shaped by culture.

The other was deeply personal.

My own life became an ongoing practice of noticing, experimenting, grieving, questioning, getting lost, and finding my way back to myself.

Along the way, I kept exploring.

Astrology. Hypnotherapy. Positive psychology coaching. Spiritual coaching. Herbalism. Ritual. Energy work. Psychic development. Queen’s Code. Somatics. Tantra. Shamanic medicine wheels. Human Design. Tarot. Moon Phases. Plant medicine. Organic Intelligence. Creator Types.

Some I studied formally, earning certifications along the way. Some became practices I return to. Others became ways of understanding myself, other people, and the world around me.

I became a certified VITA Sex, Love & Relationship Coach, weaving sexuality, intimacy, and relationships more deeply into my work.

I don't believe any one of these lenses has the whole story.

I'm interested in what becomes visible when we look through different lenses.

And no, I don't have a proprietary seven-step
Soul Unfucking Method™.

Nothing works for everyone.

Your desire gives us an orientation.

What brought you here?
What are you longing for?
What do you want more—or less—of?

That's our compass.

We might start down one path, meet a big bad wolf, wander off in another direction, and discover an entirely different way through.

The route can change.
The compass stays with us.

Sometimes Murder Princess shows up.

She has opinions.